Affection – IMI Site Wed, 22 Sep 2021 18:54:55 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Affection – IMI Site 32 32 Meet People Online with these Apps and Sites Like Craigstlist Personals Mon, 10 May 2021 12:04:12 +0000 If you were one of the unlucky ducks caught in between relationships while states were locked-down (and if you’re anything like me) then being alone for three-plus months has probably taught you a lot about yourself and the way you meet people online.

Prior to the pandemic, I used to believe that I had hit all the milestones for the foreseeable future and only major life events (like reaching the age of 25, getting married, or death) could derail me. Boy was I naive! But in my defense, I’ve never had the opportunity to sit and think about where my life was headed and what I wanted for 90-days straight before (if TLC wants to turn this into a spin-off of 90-Day Fiance, you know how to contact me). Being that alone and independent was something I never thought I would have to accomplish in my lifetime. But now that I’m on the other side of it, I have confidence in myself that I didn’t have before. If I could survive social isolation, I can survive anything. Even reckoning with the idea that my ideal relationship looks nothing like the widely-accepted, traditional portrait of love and family–at least not at the moment, and that’s something worth celebrating, not burying or shaming!

I only share this because I’m sure some are still quick to imagine “successful” relationships solely as longlasting imagery of a conventional white picket fence backdrop to the still-life of heterosexuality, monogamy, and missionary. Which, is fine for those who want exactly that, but for those of us who don’t, it’s in our best interest we find a safe space to explore all of our options. Just as we don’t want someone to convince us we need to get married for the relationship to be “real,” it’s unfair of us to toy with the feelings of those who may be set on commitment.

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Not to oversimplify human relationships, but the key to having a successful friends-with-benefits relationship, casual encounter, one-night-stand, or whatever it may be, is knowing exactly what you want. Having a frame of reference for your preferred relationship style allows you to set boundaries, thoughtfully compromise, and consider your partner’s expectations.

Knowing exactly how you might want to explore your sexual relationships going forward is such an invaluable gift and definitely shouldn’t be taken for granted. Its importance is not to be understated and your wants/needs should be vocalized. So many people find themselves unhappy simply because they never analyzed what it is that they want to gain from a relationship or what their preferred relationship style is. So for all the things to come out of quarantine, I’m glad it’s life-affirming lessons.

As we’ve seen with the quick progression of this pandemic, life can change at an instant and there truly is no time like the present to try out new things! Whether it be different positions in bed or different types of relationships, you have to act on the things that make you happy (in a safe and consensual way, of course). Today is as good as any to get lucky and we want to help! Craigslist Personals has been gone for some time now, but that doesn’t mean you’re stuck using Tinder or flirting with strangers on Instagram. Read on for our list of all the best apps for exploring different relationships, from quick hookups to polyamorous couples, to swingers, it’s all yours for the taking.

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AdultFriendFinder isn’t just a site for casual encounters, it’s a social media platform––which makes it one of the best places to meet people online. Boasting well over one million site members and counting, AFF is easily navigable, explicit, and heavily used in major cities. Before signing up for a free account, the site showcases sneak peeks of users in your area that are active, or have been active recently. Before entering the site, you’ll be able to set your preferences as interested in single men, women, couples, or groups. Then once you get through to the homepage, you’ll notice the layout is pretty simple, almost early Facebook-esque, and quite revealing. Having the ability to filter the content according to nudity is a big bonus for at work browsers. Other options for filtering are age, distance, username, and active status. Complete the profile “purity test” to find out if you’re a sexual newbie or a full-blown hedonist, or, fill out the personality test to connect you with your perfect match. Not only does AFF connect you with profiles online, but it also offers a cam site, adult-centered content community, and app! If variety is what you’re searching for on your new dating site, AdultFriendFinder is your destination.

1 Month $39.95
3 Months $80.85
12 Months $239.40


Pure is such an interesting platform I almost wish it wasn’t only geared toward casual encounters, anonymous hookups, one-night-stands, and getting laid online. If you’re looking for something quick, unconventional, and discreet that will often lead to a meeting, this is the site (or app, whichever version you choose to employ) for you. The app is built on chats that self-destruct within 24 hours and uses end-to-end encryption to keep anonymity and privacy the priority check out LiveCamLink.

Upon logging on, it will ask you to update a status that will display exactly what you’re looking for. If you don’t know, it’s okay to say that! Your status will be posted on a ‘wall’ and will be made visible to other users. Upon seeing your status, users will be able to engage in conversation with you, or simply keep swiping down the wall. Keep in mind that chats are only available for 24 hours as a security measure, however, if you and the person chatting both want to extend the chat, that is also a possibility. If a adult chat is extended, the app will assign the two users nicknames (which may be changed at any time). As photos are allowed to be sent in chats, the app advises its users not to give out any personal information and to keep all conversations within the app. If you decide to give Pure a try, don’t forget that city-dwellers will most certainly have the upper hand when it comes to activity on the app. Even then, don’t get discouraged and try it out for yourself! You might be pleasantly surprised.

1 Week $14.99
1 Month $29.99
Singles Chat Subscription Only $19.99
PURE Hookup App Pass $39.99


#Open is a fun and fresh approach to the standard adult dating app scene. Upon making your profile, you’ll have the choice between creating a solo account, partnered account, or a “double profile” where users can toggle in between the two with the ability to edit the account type at any time. Even better, the app has a strict no-NSFW image policy and encourages the use of usernames or nicknames for heightened security, so there’s also less of a chance you’ll find yourself harassed or spammed with dick pics by a deranged user.

#Open also requires all of its users to play “N.I.C.E,” it’s so refreshing to see a dating app highlight consent, respect, and boundaries. However, if you’re feeling a little more…open…there’s a spot to add your social media handles and define your current relationship situation or describe what you’re looking for. #Open also functions on–you guessed it–hashtags. It offers up three phrases for users to complete that will help them find whatever it is they’re looking for. Some examples being: “I’m open to trying…”, “My interests are…?”, and “I’m looking for…?” which can all be answered by typing in specific phrases which then convert into active hashtags.

The app is pretty simple to figure out and works like many other swipe-based apps, except users can also browse the hashtags that they’re interested in and stumble upon other like-minded users and possible flings that way. What this site excels in is the diversity of its users (it’s way more inclusive than other apps that have you identify within a gender binary), and how well it integrated the ability to have multiple profiles into its community. The algorithm often layers multiple profiles behind each other. So, for instance, if you don’t want to match on a couple, but are interested in one of the individuals from the couple if that person has a solo account, they’ll be the next option for you to match on. All in all, #Open is a great app for open minded adults looking to connect with couples, individuals, and groups of all shapes and sizes!


Feeld, previously 3nder, is your destination dating app for all things kink, swinger, and polyamorous. This app has a great design, interface, and security and is your best bet for judgment-free browsing of couples, doms, subs, and a whole lot more. Feeld really flexes its creativity right upon opening the app. You’re greeted by an aesthetically pleasing orange and white screen detailing the ways you can browse the app. Meet open-minded people and join solo or with a partner, lover, or friend. With the ability to link and unlink accounts, the browsing opportunities are limitless and exciting.

After creating your profile, you’ll be asked what you’re looking for and how you identify this profile (is it a couples’ profile or does it belong to a single, bisexual, nonbinary person?), you’ll also be asked to set your “core” location and age range. Profiles appear as a split-screen with a summary of the account (name, sexual orientation, age, relationship status, and short bio) underneath a photo gallery. Swipe left and right to toggle between different profiles, and if you come across one you like, just give it a heart! If they like you too, you’ll be able to start messaging. For your peace of mind, the app also lets you create your own pin code lock as an extra layer of security if you happen to pass your phone to your nosy mom or leave it unlocked around a snooping younger cousin.

1 month $11.99
3 months $23.99


HER is one of the most popular LGBTQ-friendly apps for meeting people online. 40% of users on this app are either gay or lesbian, 30% are bisexual, 20% are pansexual or queer, and the remaining 10% don’t identify. This free app is made by Queer Womxn for Queer Womxn and sets itself apart with the community it has built. While in the app, you’ll be able to browse the community, event, and feed tab, which all bring you closer to the members on the app. Join different communities such as “Strong and Single,” “Newly Out,” and “Queer Womxn of Color” to find users interested in the same things and discuss with them on the community wall, discover unique events happening near you and all over the world in the events tab and join an event with the click of a button, and stay up to date with the official ‘HER’ profile in the My Feed tab. With 24/7 moderation on the platform and seemingly limitless options for filtering and engagement, HER is the app for queer womxn and other LGBTQ+ members.

1 Month $14.99
6 Months $71.99
12 Months $89.99


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Happn is a breath of fresh air when it comes to casual encounter apps. Forget the algorithm and personal aesthetics, this free app matches you with people who have physically crossed your path throughout the day–so it’s completely based on chance! Using its geo-location system, this app will connect you with other app uses who have crossed your path within a 250-meter radius. The matches appear on your screen in the form of a profile showing the user’s name and occupation. Once a match appears, you can then scroll through photos, and read a short bio of the person detailing things like what they’re looking for in a relationship, their height, how much they exercise, what their food preference is, and even what their party habits are. These “matches” will be available to view for up to one week after crossing paths, however, specific matches will be updated if you cross paths again within the week.

Take into account that if you don’t go out much, or if you don’t live in a heavily populated city, this might not be the app for you. And because of the geo-location, even people you haven’t “matched” with will be able to see where they crossed paths with you and how far away you are at the time of their present viewing. If location services aren’t your thing or make you feel uncomfortable, I would suggest another app or sign up for the premium membership. Ranging from $10-$25 a month, you will be able to turn off your geo-location, filter the types of profiles you want to see, and have access to unlimited likes. If you want to feel that balance between fate and curation that no other app offers, strap on your shoes, download the app, and go on a run!

1 Month $24.99
6 Months $89.99
12 Months $119.99


The popular queer classifieds Instagram account Personals launched Lex, its rebranded standalone platform that lets you meet people online. The app exists outside of Instagram and lets users draft 30-day ads for meeting other queers. The app is incredibly inclusive and explicitly lists itself as being built “for lesbian, bisexual, asexual, and queer people,” as well as “womxn and trans, genderqueer, intersex, two-spirit, and non-binary” users. You can use Lex to post classifieds for pretty much whatever you want, but it excels especially with hookups. Just share what you’re looking for, come up with a witty title, and wait for the messages to come in.

Lex is run by a small team, and it’s still quite new, so it’s filled with some bugs. Its emphasis on the personal connection over physical appearance can be both a blessing and a curse, particularly for cruisers who prefer a specific aesthetic from their partners. Users can’t see what you look like unless you link your Instagram account, making it a more or less necessary addition to enjoying Lex to the fullest. Lesbian dating app etiquette still applies here, too, so ghosting is very common.


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Rated #98 in the app store, and with over seven million users, DOWN is one of the best apps for finding meeting singles online. The concept is easy to understand: swipe left or right to review or skip a user, swipe up if you’d like to “date” the user and down if you’d like to hook up with the user. In terms of ease of communication, I think Down has nailed it. There’s no confusion between users when their profiles are matched, you’ll know instantly if that person wants to date or just wants something quick, and if you happen to swipe the wrong way, don’t worry! You can edit your picks in the likes tab. If there’s someone you really want to meet, you can click on the lips button and send them a crush. This will pop up on their feed and push your profile to the front of their list. What I don’t like about this app, however, is that they only give you about 10 preview swipes before you have to pay for the subscription. It’s also a pretty dark interface with standard features. Out of the profiles I did see, there were no bios included, and they all only had one photo. This is nice for discretion, but if you need more info to go off of before you start swiping, then this app might be too spontaneous for you.


Blendr is another one of your typical casual encounter apps. The user interface is nice, but not over the top. It’s cleanly laid out with more information readily available for free than when compared to other hookup apps (your popularity, photo verification, etc.) And there’s actually quite an amazing selection of potential matches that seem to be legit, unlike other sites that are crawling with bots. The use of Blendr can easily be interchanged between the website as well as the mobile app, which makes this much more inclusive to an older crowd of users or people who just don’t want to have to download another app. Creating your profile is pretty standard, it asks for the usual photo, bio, physical characteristics, and traits. It also offers the option to spice up your profile with hashtags that you can then use to match you to other users with similar interests. But as we mentioned before, Blendr has a photo verification process in order to weed out bots, fake accounts, and scammers, so unless you comply with the photo verification you won’t be able to access the service’s premium features.

For a free app, I would say that if you’re truly interested in Blendr, or simply want to join in on all the free dating apps and sites to increase your visibility, join and see for yourself! I would be lying if I said this was an app that we couldn’t live without since it isn’t a major player in the dating app scene (yet) but signing up definitely won’t be a waste of your time. And if you do choose to go premium, Blendr offers users the ability to subscribe on a membership basis and/or purchase coins that can be used to purchase gifts and other virtual perks.

1 Week $3.99
1 Month $12.99
3 Months $30.99
2,750 coins $49.99


I once saw a Tumblr post that likened the Grindr app to the Bible app, and, unbeknownst to me and what I was doing at the time, I downloaded it on my mother’s phone. You can imagine her surprise. Now, a decade later, I’m proud to say that Grindr has become the world’s largest social networking app for LGBTQ users. With its no-frills grid display sorted by location and super specific filter options, it’s no wonder why the LGBTQ community has flocked to the platform. Decide if you’re looking for a chat, date, relationship, or immediate hookup through its basic filters, You can also look for something a bit more specific like a bear, jock, daddy, or twink if you so desire.

Basic Grindr is free, but there are paid subscriptions that boost your mojo. We recommend trying Grindr’s seven-day free trial if you constantly want to sort through profiles that you haven’t chatted with, find users that accept NSFW pictures, or advertise enjoyment with specific positions. If you like all of this, the Xtra or Unlimited memberships might be worth your while. Unlimited is the most elite tier of paid Grindr subscriptions. It allows users to unlock unlimited profiles so they’ll never run out of people to browse and chat, see who’s viewed their profile, browse in incognito mode so other users can’t see you, un-send messages, and even seen when someone is typing to you.

Grindr XTRA is a step below Unlimited, but still offers a bunch of perks the basic (free) subscription won’t getcha (like read receipts, no ads, push notifications, a discreet app icon, more Grindr Tribes, additional filters, online-only view, and much more!).

1 Month Grindr XTRA $24.99
3 Months Grindr XTRA $20.97
6 Months Grindr XTRA $29.94
12 Months Grindr XTRA $47.88
1 Month Grindr Unlimited $49.99
12 Months Grindr Unlimited $299.99


It almost feels like a waste of time to review Tinder at this point because let’s be honest, its the mother of our modern-day apps for getting laid. But, since it is a list of dating apps and sites, I kind of have to include the original mainstream sex dating app.

For those of you who have been in a long term relationship since 2012, or have been living under a rock, Tinder is the free dating app that invented swiping right. Again, for the 1% of you who don’t know what “swiping right” means, it’s basically Tinder’s way of letting the user match with another user. The whole interface is based on the profile picture, a small bio, and common interests. Swipers see a person’s photo, bio, and interests. If they like it, they swipe right with their finger to try to match with the person, and if they don’t like it, they swipe left. You can only message someone when both of you have swiped right. The app is super straight forward, very clean, and easy to use. It isn’t the most advanced in terms of filtering, but with 1.6 billion swipes per day and 57 million users around the world, I think it’s safe to say that it doesn’t really matter. If you’re looking for a mainstream “anything goes” dating app that many swear by, look no further and give the OG a try.

Tinder is free to use but offers two different premium memberships, Tinder Plus and Tinder Gold. Both extensions allow you unlimited daily likes, the ability to “rewind” your last swipe and do it over again, five Super Likes per day, one free Boost per month, and a “passport” that lets you swipe around the world rather than being limited by your location. Tinder Gold takes it one step further and allows you to see who already liked you, making it much easier to decipher whether or not you’ve got a shot. However, it’s worth noting that if you’re over the age of 30, Tinder is going to upcharge your subscription costs.

1 Month Tinder Plus (aged 18-29) $9.99
6 Months Tinder Plus (aged 18-29) $34.99
12 Months Tinder Plus (aged 18-29) $54.99
1 Month Tinder Gold (aged 18-29) $14.99
6 Months Tinder Gold (aged 18-29) $52.99
12 Months Tinder Gold (aged 18-29) $82.99
1 Month Tinder Plus (aged 30+) $19.99
6 Months Tinder Plus (aged 30+) $60
12 Months Tinder Plus (aged 30+) $80
1 Month Tinder Gold (aged 30+) $29.99
6 Months Tinder Gold (aged 30+) $112.99
12 Months Tinder Gold (aged 30+) $149.99

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adult film star Ron Jeremy charged with sexually assaulting four women | Connect FM | Local news radio Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:32 +0000

(LOS ANGELES) – Ron Jeremy has been charged with forcibly raping three women and sexually assaulting another in separate incidents dating back to 2014, Los Angeles County District Attorney Jackie Lacey said in a press release on Tuesday .

The 67-year-old adult film star, born Ronald Jeremy Hyatt, is accused of forcible rape of a 25-year-old woman at a West Hollywood home in May 2014, the statement said. Prosecutors further allege that Jeremy sexually assaulted two other women, aged 33 and 46, on different occasions at a West Hollywood bar in 2017.

Jeremy was also charged with forcibly raping a 30-year-old woman at the same West Hollywood bar in July 2019.

The district attorney’s office also dismissed a case against Hyatt due to insufficient evidence resulting from an incident in 2016, according to Lacey.

The case remains under investigation by the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department.

In 2017, Rolling stone reported that Jeremy had been accused of sexual misconduct and sexual assault by more than a dozen women. The magazine noted that “a handful of these allegations have already surfaced in the media,” some dating back to 1997.

Jeremy denied the allegations and issued a statement to Rolling Stone at the time, in which he called the allegations “pure lies or buyer’s remorse.”

“I have never raped and I would never rape anyone,” he added. “All the serious allegations were investigated by the police and dismissed by the judges, as were most of the accusations of ‘trial and error’. I have never been charged or spent a single day in court for any of this.

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Cappy Hour: HOA’s – Friend or foe? Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000

Welcome to the first Cappy Hour of the New Year! Last week Brighton McConnell was joined by Cappy Hagman of Coldwell Banker Howard Perry and Walston for a quick photo of real estate, and the topic on the table in January was homeowners associations.

Cappy says she has “mixed feelings” about HOAs, because like everything, there are two sides to it. On the positive side, “if you have a really good set of commitments and they’re applied correctly, they drive compliance and in real estate compliance generates value,” Hagman explains.

One of the issues Cappy has with HOAs is that they aren’t regulated in the state of North Carolina. “There is no requirement on education or training, or courses or anything,” she said. In other words, the pacts and the way they are regulated can vary from one neighborhood to another.

Another aspect of HOA regulation is the rise in popularity of services like AirBNB or VRBO. A homeowner’s ability to rent out their home for a short period, or even a long-term lease, can be affected by a neighborhood HOA’s decision.

Cappy’s advice? Get involved in your HOA! According to Cappy, getting involved directly is “the best way to keep an HOA from expanding too much into areas it shouldn’t belong to.”

Listen to Brighton and Cappy’s full conversation below. Whether you are interested in buying or selling a home in our area, or want to ask Cappy a question about local real estate, chat directly with Cappy by sending an email to .

Cappy Hagman is originally from North Carolina and a proud graduate of UNC-Chapel Hill. She has lived most of her adult life in the Triangle and thinks it is simply the best place to live! Cappy has been a Chartered Real Estate Agent since 2004 and to this day she welcomes her work with the same enthusiasm and enthusiasm as on the first day. Cappy believes her customers deserve the best and that’s what she strives to deliver every day!

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Anti-Asian sentiment rises during pandemic | Life & Arts Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000

With the global increase in coronavirus cases, there has been a wave of racially motivated verbal and physical abuse targeting the Asian community.

Despite the widely touted phrase “hate is not an Aggie value, “Aggies of Chinese descent are feeling the added stress of heightened prejudice in an already tense situation like the pandemic.

On March 24, University President Michael K. Young emailed a letter to all students, staff and faculty encouraging members of the A&M community to report hate incidents to This letter was signed by members of the entire administration, including all deans.

“Messages of hatred, intimidation, racism and / or xenophobic or sinophobic remarks about other Aggies or others go against our core values,” the letter said. “An Aggie is an Aggie and no virus should destroy our spirit of comradeship or our ability to uplift one another.”

Stephanie Nguyen, head of school health and president of the Texas A&M Chinese Student Association, is well aware of the heightened concentration of anti-Asian sentiments since February 2, when the United States restricted travel with China to slow the spread of COVID-19.

“My friends feel uncomfortable going to the grocery store because they always have stares,” Nguyen said. “I had similar experiences in my hometown. Although these actions may seem insignificant, microaggressions accumulate. Xenophobia does not arise from COVID-19. [This pandemic] was just an excuse for people to openly broadcast it in the media.

One of the most frequent faces in the media is that of President Donald Trump, who consistently refers to COVID-19 as “”Chinese virus.Nguyen said that this rhetoric is precisely the inaccurate communication that is gradually emboldening hatred at this time.

“With a little research, this strain of H1N1 actually has an unknown origin,” Nguyen said. “I believe there is no reason to call COVID-19 a ‘Chinese virus’ other than to blame people. What we need to do now is not to blame each other, but to work together to fight the spread of this disease and find a cure. “

Regarding the sensitivity measures taken by A&M, Nguyen said the university is acting sufficiently in accordance with its core values ​​to exemplify respect and integrity.

“By tradition, the student body holds these core values ​​at the highest point, even under these difficult circumstances,” said Nguyen. “With such a large number of students, there may be a few who do not meet these expectations and hurt others with racist actions. However, a great majority of us are called to be allies as the Aggie family and because of this we will stand against hate. “

Not all the students opposed the hatred as Nguyen claims. Activated by the screen barrier, the scale of virulent abuse against Asian Aggies is even more apparent online than in face-to-face interactions, as shown by the use of insults in these GroupMe screenshots. of an established campus organization.


Fact Check: Claims that COVID-19 came from a Wuhan resident eating something people call “bat soup” from a wet market have been refuted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Journal of Medical Virology. When given the opportunity to comment, Turning Point USA officials at Texas A&M did not respond. An hour later, however, the TPUSA newsgroup chat was deleted.

Dean of Student Life Anne Reber spoke on behalf of the A&M “Stop Hate” initiative and said this aforementioned online conversation is an opportunity for self-control among students.

“The challenge with hate on social media or group posts is that it is protected speech,” Reber said. “Respect is a core value, not a student rule. When Aggies violates a core value, it’s up to everyone to help. We are all responsible for supporting students on social media, in the classroom and in organizations. Respect is the basis of this whole community so why should we tolerate the opposite? “

The invisible side effects of the virus are not limited to fevers and body aches. The sociological pandemic of prejudice against those who appear to be of Chinese descent has increased with fear of infection. A&M Diversity Committee sociologist Stephanie Ortiz said the fear of uncertainty that accompanies a pandemic can lead to further exclusion of already marginalized groups.

“When we take another group as the scapegoat, it can work as a powerful form of distraction from institutions and social actors who are more likely to impact the situation,” Ortiz said. “These actions then have negative legal, political, economic and social consequences for the group. Daily accounts of verbal harassment are reported, as well as violent incidents across the country involving stabbing and beatings. “

By definition, pandemics are global threats. Ortiz said the instincts to point fingers and lash out at a group of people are logically spurious and unproductive responses, advising Aggies instead to face and end this pandemic of discrimination.

“First of all, be sure to report any incidents of racial discrimination you have seen and experienced against Aggies to“Ortiz said.” Second, interrupt xenophobia and racism when you see and hear them. This is especially important when it comes to ‘jokes’ between family or friends, which normalize racist views and violence against Asian Americans Finally, consult your Asian American friends and ask them if they need help Listen and believe them.

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Rupi Kaur, Josh Groban, Big Sean, David Chang, more featured in new mental health and the arts series q Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000

Music star Lizzo says she relied on music to make her happy – and when that started to fail, she turned to therapy.

Shawn Mendes sings about his anxiety experience in his hit single In my blood.

In a new series of essays, Rachel Bloom, star and co-creator of the TV show crazy ex-girlfriend, wrote a collection of essays on his battle with OCD and depression.

Big Sean took a three-year hiatus from music to tackle his mood issues and returned with his most honest album yet.

Sound of Mind is a new week-long series on mental health and the arts. (SRC)

According to Canadian Mental Health Association, by age 40, about 50 percent of people will have suffered from a mental illness – and artists, regardless of their level of fame, are not exempt.

But there’s one thing that sets artists apart: many channel their experience into their work and in doing so help legions of fans better understand and overcome their own emotional challenges.

In a weeklong series titled The Healthy Mind: Mental Health and the Arts, CBC q explores the multitude of ways artists deal with and draw inspiration from mental health issues.

From pop star Katy Perry to celebrity chef David Chang, and comedian Ricky Gervais to bestselling poet Rupi Kaur, interviews explore the relationship between mental health and the arts through interviews, snippets and encore shows.

Here’s what you’ll hear – and links to the episodes will be added to this page daily:

Monday, November 30

Musician Forrest Eaglespeaker, actress Rose McGowan, actress, songwriter and singer-songwriter Rachel Bloom, actress and songwriter Margaret Trudeau. (Matt Braden, Getty Images, Robyn Von Swank, Kirsten Miccoli)

INTERVIEW: Blackfoot roots singer Forrest eaglespeaker just released a new album with his duo The North Sound, and the songs chronicle his battle with alcohol addiction, as well as his path to sobriety. In this interview, he talks about the use of music to cope with substance abuse and the effects of Indigenous intergenerational trauma.

In a new essay book, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend star and TV co-creator Rachel Bloom writes about fame, insecurity, and living with OCD and depression. (Scott Everett White / The Associated Press)

EXCERPT: Actress Rose McGowan uses music to create a vision of a new planet, where she can escape her past trauma.

INTERVIEW: Actress Rachel bloom, star and co-creator of televisions crazy ex-girlfriend, writes about fame, insecurity, and living with OCD and depression in his hilarious new collection of essays, I wanna be where normal people are.

AGAIN: In the 1970s, Marguerite Trudeau was married to Prime Minister Pierre Trudeau, partied with the Rolling Stones and danced the night away at Studio 54. What no one knew, including herself, was that she had bipolar disorder. In 2010, she wrote a bestselling memoir and became a strong advocate for mental health. This story became Certain Woman of an Age, a one-woman show now available in audio book.

Tuesday December 1

Musician, writer and visual artist Vivek Shraya, singer-songwriter and rapper Lizzo, singer-songwriter Josh Groban, actor and comedian Ricky Gervais. (Vanessa Heins, Vivian Rashotte / CBC, Getty Images, Getty Images for Netflix)

INTERVIEW: If this is an artistic medium, musician, author and visual artist based in Calgary Vivek Shraya probably overpowered it. But as this pandemic continues, she has discovered that sometimes the best way to practice good mental hygiene is to step away – even from your own art.

EXTRACT: Lizzo has long relied on music to make her happy – but when that started to falter, she turned to therapy to better understand her sanity.

INTERVIEW: Singer Josh groban explains why to make his new album Harmony while the seclusion was therapeutic, and how did he keep his spirits up during those dark times.

ENCORE: Comedian Ricky gervais is best known as the creator of Office and Supplements, and as the biting and funny host of the Golden Globes. In this unforgettable interview, Gervais talks about laughing through tears on his Netflix show After life, and about his character Tony, a little journalist who chooses kindness as a balm for his loneliness and grief.

Wednesday 2 December

Poet Rupi Kaur, Artist Meichi Ng, Singer-Songwriter Shawn Mendes, Rapper Big Sean. (Baljit Singh, HarperCollins Canada, Rich Polk, Universal Music)

MAINTENANCE: Rupi kaur was able to reach millions of people by sharing his short visual poetry on Instagram. She is now the New York Times number one bestselling author, and last year The New Republic named her “Writer of the Decade.” Rupi Kaur explains how internet culture and sudden fame impacted his mental health and how writing Home Body, a book she calls a self-love letter, has helped her find her voice.

INTERVIEW: In his hilarious and heartbreakingly honest book Barely functional adult: all this will eventually make sense, Meichi Ng covers topics such as therapy, murder, friendship, wrinkles, exes, melodrama, being really bad at things, meanness, and other wonderfully human delicacies. The artist explains how dealing with difficult emotions through comics and sharing them has helped her sanity – and helped other “barely functional adults” feel a little less lonely.

EXTRACT: In the wake of a new album, we revisit Shawn mendes reflect on her choice to sing her own anxiety in her hit single In my blood.

BIS: Big sean is known for making feel good music with hip-hop heavyweights like Kanye West and Drake. But what happens when the artist behind the feel-good songs is depressed? Big Sean talks about his struggle with mental health and how a three-year hiatus from the industry led to his most honest album yet.

Thursday December 3

Celebrity chef David Chang, singer-songwriter Katy Perry, hip-hop specialist Dr Mark Anthony Neal. (Andrew Bezek, Liza Volochine, Duke University)

MAINTENANCE: David Chang is the chef and founder of Momofuku – the New York noodle bar that spawned a restaurant empire – as well as the host of Netflix Ugly Delicious, and a bestselling cookbook author. In his memoirs, Eat a peachChang talks about his personal struggles, including his diagnosis of bipolar disorder, his anger, and his thoughts of suicide.

YET: With 13 Grammy nominations, billions of streams and millions of records sold, Katy Perry is one of the most successful pop stars of all time – but not everything is perfect at the top. In this encore interview, Perry talks about the sadness she feels singing her happy songs and how lonely she can be at the top.

MAINTENANCE: Dr Mark Anthony Neal is a hip-hop scholar and professor of black popular culture at Duke University. He joins Tom Power for a discussion on hip-hop’s relationship to mental health and how music and culture have approached the subject over the decades.

Friday 4 December

Singer-songwriter Alanis Morissette, rapper TOBi, panel q this music, musician Menno Versteeg, actor Ahmed Best. (Shelby Duncan, TOBi / Facebook, Kate Dockeray, Ahmed Best / Twitter)

EXTRACT: Alanis Morissette found intense fame at a very young age and spent his life struggling with how to heal certain deep wounds.

INTERVIEW: Musician in small groups TOBi uses his new album ELEMENTS Vol. 1 examine mental well-being and vulnerability as a means of healing from trauma. It is a continuation of his work as a consultant in conflict resolution and family mediation. As he says in this interview, 2020 is a year we must rest on, especially members of the black community.

INTERVIEW: lead singer of Hollerado Menno Versteeg joins Tom Power to discuss his label Royal Mountain. They’ve started a wellness fund for the artists on the list, and he talks about the progress they’ve made and what they’re hoping to get from here.

BIS: Ahmed Best still feels connected to the role of Jar Jar Binks, which he played over 20 years ago – not only because it was a performance he really cared about, but because the backlash created a low point in his life. The light at Star wars With actor John Boyega’s recent calls to action for the franchise to support its BIPOC cast members, we revisit this urgent conversation.

If you need mental health support, visit Crisis Services Canada for the distress centers and crisis organizations nearest to you. If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call the Canadian Suicide Prevention Service at 1-833-456-4566 (24/7) or text 45645 (4 p.m. to 12 a.m. ET).

If you are in distress and are in the United States, call National lifeline for suicide prevention for free and confidential assistance on 1-800-273-8255 (24/7).

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]]> 0 Two of us with Footpath Library founder Sarah Garnett and artist Michael Kelly Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000

Sarah Garnett, 60, founded The Footpath Library, a nonprofit that provides books to the homeless. She met artist Michael Kelly, 64, while walking through some Penguin Classics, and helped him get back on his feet.

Sarah Garnett and Michael Kelly: “Michael started visiting the library regularly and we had in-depth conversations about art and books.”Credit:Pierre Braig

SARAH: I met Michael in 2005 when he visited The trail library at Woolloomooloo in Sydney, where we donate books to the homeless. He had long black curly hair, wore a beret and a black coat, and kept a black journal. When I saw him select a few Penguin Classics by Patrick White, Marcel Proust and Joseph Conrad, I said to myself: “He’s a serious reader. I bet he’s really interesting. So I said hello and we chatted. He spoke very well.

The following week he was there again with his journal. He told me he was an artist and showed me his sketches. I was amazed by his talent. Then he showed me some photos of his paintings and I realized that he had been formally trained. He started visiting the library regularly and we had in-depth conversations about art and books. His tastes were more intellectual than mine. Shortly after, he told me about his adult son, who has schizophrenia, and his relationships.

At the beginning of 2009, he had to have his esophagus operated on, and I said to him: “You are not going back to the streets after the operation, you will come and stay with us. He had been homeless for four years by then. I was glad he accepted, because so many people will not take help. I picked him up from the hospital and brought him home to stay with my husband, Shane, and our two boys at our Bungan Beach home. [on Sydney’s Northern Beaches]. I mashed him and he slept a lot, and he also sat on the deck to draw. He stayed for about five days and it took our relationship to another level. He had become a friend and I wanted to help him like I would help any of my friends or family.

When he returned to live in his van, I felt terrible. In December 2009, I went with him to Housing NSW and said, “This man has just had surgery. I’m not leaving until you do something. They agreed to pay his rent if I could find a place for him, and we found a small unit in Potts Point. It’s wonderful to see him blossom since he found this place and started painting again.

When I saw him select Penguin Classics by Patrick White, Marcel Proust and Joseph Conrad, I said to myself: “He’s a serious reader.

In 2013, he left for Italy to paint, which was his dream. He had saved up the money from a few occasional classes at the National Art School in Sydney and the sale of some of his paintings. I was a little worried. I said, “Do you have a fanny pack?” “Make sure you have travel insurance. I felt like his mother.

Michael is a good listener; he has given me great advice over the years. When a son of mine wanted to leave school early to study photography, Michael said, “If he’s got that creativity and he’s really passionate, you should let him. I listened to him because he followed his passion and that is what he lives for. Sometimes I wish I had such a talent.

Michael chooses his friends carefully, so I feel honored to be his friend. In terms of talent or resilience, I don’t have any other friends like him. He never gave up, and now he’s doing what he always wanted to do, painting, and I’m so proud of him. It’s good that he’s no longer coming to The Footpath Library, because that means he’s settled and happy.

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Katharine McPhee and David Foster welcome first child, 6th child together Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000

Congratulations, Katharine McPhee! The singer gave birth to him and David fosterthe first child together, a son, Us weekly confirmed.

“Kat McPhee and David Foster are the proud parents of a baby boy,” said the new mom’s rep. Us weekly Wednesday February 24.

A source went on to say We, “Everything went well. Mom and baby are healthy.

Katharine McPhee and David Foster. MediaPunch / Shutterstock

In October, We confirmed that the American Idol alum, 36, was Pregnant with the composer’s sixth child. (The 71-year-old Canadian native once welcomed Amy, now 47, with his first wife, BJ cook, followed by Sara, 39, Erin, 38, and Jordan, 34, with his second wife, Rebecca dyer. David placed his eldest child, Allison, 50, up for adoption when he was 20, and they reconnected when she was an adult.)

The native of Los Angeles seemed to confirm her pregnancy a day after the news broke.

“I just got home and opened this Aperol Spritz gift, which for those of you who don’t know… it’s one of my favorite drinks and reminds me of being in Capri “the” Open Toes “singer said on her Instagram Story at the time. “Thank you, Aperol Spritz. I won’t be drinking this anytime soon, wink, wink. But, I am very excited! Who’s coming for an Italian-inspired cocktail? “

The revelation came a month after a source exclusively said We that the couple was “really trying” to have a baby.

In August 2019, another insider exclusively said We this McPhee wanted children “right away” with the Grammy winner, noting that Sara and Erin were on board.

“[They] love Katharine and love her for their father, ”the source added at the time.

The siblings exclusively told We the month after they “sincerely love” their mother-in-law. Erin explained in September 2019, “It takes a very strong and gracious person to come into a family as a fifth wife and have adult daughters older than her and do it in a way that really creates inclusion with it. family, and she just does it effortlessly. It makes it easy for all of us to get along. We are therefore very grateful to him.

David proposed to the Broadway star in July 2018, and they tied the knot the following year in London.

McPhee was previously married to David Cokas from 2008 to 2016. As for the musical director, he married Cook in 1972, then Dyer in 1982, Linda thompson in 1991 and Yolande Hadid in 2011.

People was the first to break the news of the couple’s baby.

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Police arrest four members of sexual abuse trafficking ring in Colombia Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000

Police arrest four members of child sex trafficking ring as gruesome video emerges of girl tortured and threatened with exercise in Colombia

  • Authorities arrested four members of sex trafficking ring in Bogotá, Colombia
  • The suspects have been identified as Colombian nationals Silvia Yaney Castañeda and Danilo Pacheco
  • Cops also arrested Exyerin David Vargas and Leonardo Jesús Vargas, both Venezuelans
  • The attorney general’s office said the suspects forced the victims – some of whom were under the age of consent – to perform sex acts in a bar.
  • Authorities learned of an incident in September 2019 in which a girl told a bar patron that the bar was selling counterfeit alcohol and drugs
  • Video recorded by traffickers shows the moment the girl was tortured, had her hair cut and was threatened with a drill when a man called her a “snitch.”
  • The girl then managed to escape her captors and returned to Venezuela

Colombian authorities arrested four members of a sex trafficking ring and rescued four girls, rescuing four girls they were detaining.

The attorney general’s office said the suspects were forcing adult and underage women, many of whom are migrants from Venezuela, into prostitution at a bar in the town of Bosa, in southern Bogotá.

Authorities confiscated a cell phone from one of the suspects and learned of an incident in September 2019 in which one of the suspects recorded a brutalized and tortured young girl.

In the gruesome video – which the Daily Mail decided not to repost – the young girl is seen sitting on a bed with clamps gripping her feet and her hair cut.

A man behind the camera holds up a drill in front of his face and threatens to kill her.

The punishment was reportedly in retaliation for the girl who allegedly told a bar patron that the owners were selling fake booze and drugs.

Silvia Yaney Castañeda (second from left), Danilo Pacheco (third from left), Exyerin David Vargas (third from right) and Leonardo Jesús Vargas (second from right) were charged with trafficking in human beings, torture and incitement to prostitution after their arrest in Bogotá, Colombia, on Sunday

A cell phone seized by police in Colombia showed a Venezuelan girl threatened with a drill by members of a sex trafficking ring.  The underage was one of several people who were promised a job at the bar before they were forced to have sex with customers.  The girl then managed to escape her captors and returned to Venezuela.

A cell phone seized by police in Colombia showed a Venezuelan girl threatened with a drill by members of a sex trafficking ring. The underage was one of several people who were promised a job at the bar before they were forced to have sex with customers. The girl then managed to escape her captors and returned to Venezuela.

A male accomplice then slapped the girl in the face and said, “Why didn’t you cry when you left snitching?” ”

The man behind the cell phone camera then said, “Let’s kill her with the drill”, before the other suspect pointed the drill at the terrified girl’s face.

Footage recorded by the Colombian national police showed the moment the suspects were captured on Sunday after a judge granted an arrest warrant after taking testimonies from the four girls and footage from surveillance cameras near the bar.

The suspects have been identified as Silvia Yaney Castañeda and Danilo Pacheco, both of Colombian nationality. Cops also arrested Exyerin David Vargas and Leonardo Jesús Vargas, both Venezuelans.

The four suspects were charged with human trafficking, torture and incitement to prostitution.

Silvia Yaney Castañeda

Danilo Pacheco

Colombian nationals Silvia Yaney Castañeda (left) and Danilo Pacheco (right) were among four members of a sex trafficking ring arrested by authorities in Bogotá, Colombia, on Sunday. The attorney general’s office said the group instigated adult and underage women, mostly from Venezuela, to work in a bar before they were forced to have sex with customers.

Exyerin David Vargas

Leonardo Jesús Vargas

Exyerin David Vargas (left) and Leonardo Jesús Vargas (right) were allegedly responsible for recruiting the victims and promising them to work at a bar in Bogotá, Colombia, before forcing them to have sex with customers from the bar. The girls received a small fraction of the money collected

Investigators say the four were responsible for recruiting the victims and promising them to bar jobs.

They then forced girls to have sex with clients and received part of the money paid to the traffickers. The victims were also forced to respect a certain quota and had to work overtime if they did not meet the traffickers’ expectations.

A police spokesperson said the four girls had since returned to Venezuela. The girl who appeared in the scary video managed to escape her captors and also returned to Venezuela.

Silvia Yaney Castañeda (left) is questioned by cops in Bogotá, Colombia, moments after she and three members of a sex trafficking ring were arrested on Sunday

Silvia Yaney Castañeda (left) is questioned by cops in Bogotá, Colombia, moments after she and three members of a sex trafficking ring were arrested on Sunday


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Working From Home With ADHD? Help and strategies from teleworkers Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000

As the new respiratory disease that has consumed and changed our lives continues to spread at an alarming rate, closing schools, offices and restaurants across the country, around 90% of ADDitude readers are now working from home – 22% of them for the first time, according to a March 13 poll.

What they quickly learn is that attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) complicates and undermines several prerequisites for working from home: focus, time management, and prioritization skills, not to mention. name a few.

Here, our readers share the five biggest challenges they face working from home and their practical tips for overcoming them.

Work from home challenge # 1: stay focused when the news is so important

“As an extroverted adult with ADHD and anxiety, I don’t like being alone all day. When I’m with other people and working in an office, my mind is focused on healthy, productive thoughts. Alone, my mind drifts more and it’s easier to get carried away by the thoughts of my own head.

ADDitude readers offer solutions

pair up. Find someone to check in quickly every morning. Review the top priorities for the day and check the status of yesterday’s.

[How Seriously Do You Procrastinate? Take This Test To Find Out]

“I started to use a timer and I would work for two hours, then take a scheduled break so I would know when to return to work. Using a timer made it easier for me to stay focused on my task and to know how much time I had until a break or how long I had on the break before I had to return to work.

Work from home challenge # 2: avoid distractions with family and no firewalls

“As a graduate student who still lives with his parents and siblings, there isn’t a single space in the house that stays quiet for long. There is a TV on in every room and it’s entertaining, but if you turn it off you hear everyone going about their business in the house.

“Internet distraction is a problem. I’m pretty good at staying off social media most of the time, just because I’m so introverted, but it’s very easy for me to get caught up in an interesting news or scientific article and waste hours following it. a link track.

ADDitude readers offer solutions

“Try to sit at a table or desk in an area with few visual distractions as possible, not the sofa or among your hobby supplies (pack them if it’s the only table). If you can, bring home a monitor and chair. Use a fan, sound machine, Where listeners to block noise distractions from the neighborhood and home.

“For distractions, I use a browser extension called Tab. It allows you to collapse any tabs you might have open into a single page with a list of links. It may not sound inspiring, but I find it helps with ADHD in two ways: is what I’m really meant to do. Additionally, OneTab helps me with my work (research) as I can bundle a bunch of project related links together and save them for future reference.

“Know how to isolate yourself and make sure that your boundaries are respected by family members. Make sure your family and friends know you are working from home and take it seriously. This means: being able to say no to driving children to activities just because you work from home and are therefore available. Because you work from home, that doesn’t mean your spouse can expect dinner to be ready, housekeeping done, and groceries done. You should always share this as well.

[Use This: 19 Ways to Meet Deadlines and Get Things Done]

Work from Home Challenge # 3: Maintain Productivity When No One Is Watching

“I find it hard to spend the same number of hours as a normal working day (at the office I work about six hours, but from home I can spend three to four hours). I usually end up doing household chores that seem important and are much easier to accomplish because I move around instead of trying to sit at my computer and read or write.

ADDitude readers offer solutions

“You have to isolate as best you can during the time of day when you feel most productive. If it’s early in the morning, wake up and step into those hours. If that doesn’t happen before 1 p.m., fine. Employers should expect productivity to decline as we all shift to social distancing, so don’t worry if that happens. Just do the best you can.

“Instead of trying to focus on one task, I have a selection of about four tasks available to me that needs to be done. I know I may have (for example) three days to complete these tasks. When I get bored with one, I move on to another task which is also important. Then when I’m bored with this one, I either go back to the original task or pick something else from my list. I don’t have more than four things on my list with a close deadline, but if I have a longer deadline, I could have six. I each write on a memory card that I keep on a bulletin board next to my desk. When I do a task, I take the map and put it on my desk. When I change, I replace the card on the bulletin board with a check mark on it, then choose another card. At the end of the time limit, I should have four cards all checked. “

Work from home Challenge n ° 4: prioritize and plan the arrival of tasks from all directions

“When I am tired and there is time limit to meet, it is very difficult to concentrate. If I have conflicting deadlines, I feel like everything is slipping away and I take a nap to calm myself down.

ADDitude readers offer solutions

“It helped me start my day by asking myself:”What is my intention today?‘It can help me prioritize. I also really like the bullet journal as a way to keep all my lists in one place.

“First thing every morning, do a brain dump things that worry you and stress you out. Keep a master list of all the things you need to do and each morning add or prioritize your brain emptying items. Then go through and add new things and take out the old things. Finally, make a separate list of three to five things to do today – extracts urgent, brief or stressful items when you woke up.

Work from Home Challenge # 5: Avoid Unhealthy Hyperfocus

“I need help to remember to eat, drink water and use the toilet. It is easier to hyperfocus and overwork.

ADDitude readers offer solutions

Make a schedule and stick to it. Dress in the morning – even putting on shoes can help your brain go into work mode. Take breaks and make sure you have lunch. Remote work can facilitate hyperfocus and spend some time digging. This can be a benefit, but not eating or drinking enough water will leave you exhausted and nervous at the end of the day.

Work from home, challenge n ° 6: floundering with a lack of structure and colleagues

“Being physically disconnected from the people I work with makes it harder to remember to include them in the collaboration, update them on my progress, or ask for help if I’m stuck. I love working with people, I get energy from being with people, and I am even motivated by seeing other people working. Being alone can be boring, lonely, and sometimes demotivating. “

ADDitude readers offer solutions

“Get up at the same time every day and stick to the same order routine which includes exercise, meditation, eating, showering, dressing and washing dishes. Don’t look at emails before that.

Schedule regular contact with your supervisor and anyone who works with you on a project. Set up an instant messaging call or conversation at a fixed, repetitive time. »« Have a separate workspace and keep regular office hours. Don’t expect, at work or at home, to be available at all hours of the day or night.

[Read This Next: ADHD Brains Working At Home: A Beginner’s Guide To Telecommuting]

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Here’s how to keep your child safe on the internet Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:34:31 +0000 Cyber ​​experts say parents should point out the dangers that can arise online.

BRYAN, Texas – As families begin the new school year, there’s more than just coronavirus to think about. Many students will spend much more time on the computer, which means they are more likely to face an online threat.

“Be very realistic with them, be very frank with them and talk to them about the consequences of certain activities online,” said Christina Garza, head of public affairs for the FBI.

Cyber ​​experts say parents should point out the dangers that can arise on the internet. It could be accidentally downloading a computer virus or encountering online predators.

“Online predators are everywhere, whether your child is in a chat room, playroom, or even any other social networking site,” Garza said.

Once parents tell their kids about the danger, cyber experts say parents should let them know that they haven’t done anything wrong if they come across someone dangerous online. In this way, children will feel comfortable telling their parents if such a situation should arise.

“Online predators are looking for anyone as a victim, be it a child or an adult,” Garza said.

Cyber ​​experts also believe it is important for parents to monitor what a child is doing online. They say it’s not about not trusting their children, it’s about protecting them.

Children don’t always know what could be a threat or a scam.

“If you allow them to use social media, be a part of that social media platform with them as well,” said Clarence Clay, senior cybersecurity training specialist for Texas A&M Engineering Extension Service. “I can access them too. Not to come into your privacy but just to make sure they’re doing everything right.”

Although children only use the Internet to do their homework in class or to connect with friends, it is important that they know that there are people who take advantage of others.

“The intentions of the hackers are to fool you and make things look real and to deceive you,” Clay said. “If adults are fooled on a daily basis, imagine what children go through. “

The FBI has an online program called Safe online surfing. This is for children in grades 3 to 8 to learn more about Internet safety.

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